Is this the image of Christian Men that comes to mind when you think of Christian Men??? Probably not! What was it in the films “300”, “Braveheart” and “Gladiator” that still appeals to men, so much so, that these films are stacked in thousands of men’s DVD collections at home?
I know what they represented to me…
Courage driven by a passion of values
In these films the heroes lost something they truly loved. From that moment on, these characters set their faces like flint (à la Isaiah 50:7) and would not stop at anything until mission accomplished. I think every man wants to identify with heroes like those. Every man wants to aspire to be just like them. Gone are the days when Superman was the hero du jour. Now… it’s PASSION over a cause that men want. And I think it’s because men have had their passion over the years eroded by changes in our culture.
We have lost that, men. We have been criticized, feminized, and mesmerized by intimidation coming our way. Since the hippie movement in the 1960’s (not old enough not even close to know first hand), fighting for a cause was no longer a noble thing unless it was a fight against the establishment—any establishment, even if it was good. Superman of the 80’s was taken out in the 90’s by a kryptonite of a generation of boys growing up in a society where being feminine and male are synonymous with one another. To be masculine is seen as being extreme, macho, or even mean to some.
Carrying yourself like a man won’t get you very far with the culture we live in. Even in many Christian churches, a boy looking feminine isn’t too abnormal. Parents say it’s just a phase, or they’ll grow out it, and perhaps they will; but why can’t that “phase” be one of biblical masculinity? Why is a phase always sinful and why do parents accept it?
We are a generation of men raised by women, and that includes me. But now is the tyme. Now is the tyme to recapture what we were placed on this earth for. If your boys are leaning toward the feminine look that’s popular for young men, like, skinny jeans and moms haircut, you should be asking yourself some basic questions like:
Who has your son’s heart?
Who are his primary influences?
Why isn’t his dad who he’s trying to emulate? (Assuming dad doesn’t wear skinny jeans and have moms haircut!)
There are great passages of scripture that every son should learn from if his desire is to become a biblical man. I always tell young men to study the qualifications for Elders and Deacons laid out in 1 Tim. 3: 1-13, and Titus 1: 5-9, then set out to meet that criteria for their lives. One of my favorite verses, 1 Cor. 16:13, says, “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” (emphasis mine) And of course, I tell them to study the life of Christ, who is the ultimate example of manhood, and live a life that’s pleasing to Him.
Being masculine has nothing to do with height or weight either, because I know some out there have accused me of saying that all boys should fall into the jock/athlete model, and that’s not at all what I’m saying. He shouldn’t be a bully either, and he shouldn’t punch any guy out who didn’t deserve it. A biblical man is one who understands his position in the world and embraces his duty as a man. To abandon his position as a leader, a provider, a protector, or a priest, is to sin against God, and to sin against those he’s called to lead.
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and getting to know some wonderful examples of young men who have risen above the mediocrity that culture sets forth for young men today, and have seen first hand what the Lord can do with those who truly desire to live Godly in an ungodly world. These young men come from households that take seriously the commandment to “bring up our children in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Eph. 6:4)
It takes work to raise Godly, masculine boys, and there may be some resistance along the way, because after all, their hearts are naturally inclined to resist God’s will for their life and embrace sin as the norm; but don’t lose heart, God’s grace is inexhaustible. I’m a prime example of someone who defied God’s will for my life through my teen years and beyond, and today, by His grace, and by His grace alone, I stand here encouraging others to lean on His word. Let’s not accept what seems to be the norm out there, rather, let’s redefine the norm with the word of God. You won’t be popular, and you might even take one for the team from time to time, but that’s okay, we need runners on base!
Man Up and Rise Up, Men of God.
I beg you, let the Christ in you, the Lion of Judah, wield the sword of Truth and lead your family by your courageous example. Shun mediocrity and GO TO WAR!
Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? YOU ARE A MIST that appears for a little while and then vanishes.
“WAKE UP MEN OF GOD!”