HELP! Where are the MEN in the Church?

In the last couple of weeks I have been reading on “Why Men Don’t Go to Church Today”! And Ironically I this past Friday and this morning I was on a Men Conference Call & listened to a National Christian Radio talk show dealing on the same subject. Once again God will keep knocking on your door until you answer! I wrote the following post a few weeks back. But have been debating on to post it? Well God this is me answering the door.

Our culture and communities desperately need men of character and integrity. Men that will lead and influence society according to the values and lifestyle of Jesus Christ, who modeled what a, “Real Man,” is.  The same Jesus that wept, flipped tables over as a warrior zealous for God!  Throughout biblical tymes and the history of the church, men have been used by God to play an important part in God’s sovereign eternal plan for His people. Many tymes throughout the history of His people, God has been pictured as seeking men to fulfill the roles He has designed for them:

The LORD hath sought him a man after his own heart, 1 Samuel 13:14. Run ye to and fro through the streets of Jerusalem, and see now, and know, and seek in the broad places thereof, if ye can find a man, if there be any that executeth judgment, that seeketh the truth; and I will pardon it Jeremiah 5:1.

And I sought for a man among them that should make up the hedge, and stand in the gap before me for the land, that I should not destroy it: but I found none Ezekiel 22:30.

Those verses and many other similar ones indicate that it is not an overstatement to say that the welfare of God’s people rises and falls on the men among them. And as the last verse indicates, the unfortunate absence of men who “stand in the gap” is all too common. Today’s churches will rise to the standards of their Lord only if they have men who are loving leaders, effective teachers, and godly examples.

There are more women in church than men because women are looking in churches for what they can’t find at home – which is a Pastor/Leader/Sheppard/their Covering! As a husband, God has given man the authority to pastor to his family. Paul said “I’m going to preach the gospel as God has given it to me, and not just to please man: 1 Thess 2:4. We are to live to please God and that includes how a man runs his home. You are entrusted to the word of God as the head of the home as Jesus is head of the church. Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 6:4, Hebrews 10:25. This is a task that should not be left up to Rev. So and So or Dr. Whatyamacallhim.

Unfortunately too many brothers leave the pasturing to their wife and children to another man only and then have the nerve to complain about what he is teaching them. If you are truly concerned about what the pastor is teaching, you will be in church to monitor, and use what the man of God is teaching as a spring board to help you in YOUR studying. Remember! You’re just like your pastor, you need to Study to show yourself approved to God! 2 Timothy 2:15. But you can only monitor him when you have developed a personal relationship with God’s intimate word. Then and only then can you lead your wife and children properly according to His word.

If a pastor is in a church running amok he is doing so because there aren’t any strong men in that church, who are intimate with God’s word; men in the church who are disciples of God’s word. See the church isn’t the building, or a bunch or traditions or even the pastor; the church according to Matthew 16:18 is the profession that the rock upon which the church is built on is that “Jesus is Christ and the Son of the living God.” What this means is as a man you follow God and His word. How do you know that you are following His word if you are not studying His word? I attend church, tithe my tyme, talent and treasures and love the teachings of my pastor, but at my house I serve as the pastor because I study God’s word. I do not rely on man.

Allow me to preference this statement: I work extensively with men; my own personal men military, men in ours & other churches, men in the military, institutions of higher learning and prison institutions (I worked with murderers) – so I maintain an intimate relationship with men at large. With this said it pisses me off with some of the B.S. that I hear spewed by brothers. Now don’t get me wrong I understand whole heartedly: things unexpected come up, as men we are to be providers & the need of OT OverTyme, work schedules conflicts, and even the occasional Burn Out Day. But these should not be 3 out 4 Sundays a month! And let’s be honest! A lot of men are home watching the game, golfing, or maintaining the lawn, car etc…

If you don’t want to do church be a man and say I don’t do church. Cool, that’s keeping it real. The bible says be Hot or Cold and not Luke warm Rev 3:16. I understand some of the nonsense that goes on in God’s house. But the B.S. you spew is ridiculous. See, if you go to a restaurant and the service is bad and the food is bad and you feel like you got ripped off you don’t stop eating; you just no longer spend your money at that establishment. You then find another place to eat where you will get good service and excellent food or at the very least, you go home and get a home cooked meal that you trust.

Well go home and get filled on His nourishing word. When you do, you’ll know when a pastor is out of order and because you are in order your wife will be right by your side. It also pisses me off that brothers attempt to walk with swag and speak with such a high level of intellect only to sway when they are needed to step up and make change for the better in churches, in communities – help in their homes.

Dudes it tyme to STEP UP (72% of today’s children are born out-of-wedlock living primarily with single mothers; and the sisters their behavior isn’t excused in this situation b/c they are truly apart of this problem. Additionally, our communities are going to hell because our presence is absent! We aren’t just missing from the church; we are MIA in a whole lot of places where we are needed.

How about ceasing the B.S. It’s so much better to be the KING that we were made to be. “Let us make man in OUR image, in OUR likeness, and let them rule. In four words, the man is to lead, labor, listen and love. The man is to take leadership in both the home and the church. But, sad to say, sometymes he is not willing to do it.

Some wives and ladies have shared that they are pushed into many important decisions because the men who are supposed to do them have taken a back-seat. That is unhealthy and unbiblical. We need to take responsibility and dare to learn to lead; and pray and trust God to lead us first. But men are to be humble and self-effacing leaders, and loving and gentle in our leadership. We are to show gentle care and concern for those under our care, be it our children or the BS, SS, fellowship or the shepherding of the flock of God 1 Peter 5:13. We are to be instructors (e.g., in relationships), as well as doers of God’s work and Word James 1:22.

Men are also to labor in that we are to provide for our families and, in some sense, support the ministry of the Church with responsible stewardship of our substance. The man cannot be indolent or ill-equipped. He is to be learned and be ready for any good work. He is to be the prime mover in the Church in all its ministries.

My suggestion to the Pastors out who have more excuses given to then a little bit! Have a special service just for those men! But it’s GREAT for all missing members! I call it a:

To make it possible for everyone to attend church this Sunday, we are going to have a special “No Excuse Sunday“: Cots will be placed in the foyer for those who say, “Sunday is my only day to sleep in.” There will be a special section with lounge chairs for those who feel that our pews are too hard. Eye drops will be available for those with tired eyes from watching TV late Saturday night. We will have steel helmets for those who say, “The roof would cave in if I ever came to church.”
Blankets will be furnished for those who think the church is too cold, and fans for those who say it is too hot. Scorecards will be available for those who wish to list the hypocrites present. Relatives and friends will be in attendance for those who can’t go to church and cook dinner, too. We will distribute “Stamp Out Stewardship” buttons for those that feel the church is always asking for money. One section will be devoted to trees and grass for those who like to seek God in nature. Doctors and nurses will be in attendance for those who plan to be sick on Sunday. The sanctuary will be decorated with both Christmas Poinsettia and Easter lilies for those who never have seen the church without them. We will provide hearing aids for those who can’t hear the preacher and cotton wool for those who think he’s too loud! Hope to see you there! 
*Resources/Photos:  Benny Perez, Ann Brock & The Mother of All Excuses

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